Why no one over 40 cares what you think.

The difference between saying you don’t care what other people think when you’re 25 and saying you don’t care what other people think when you’re 40, is that when you’re 40, you actually mean it.

At 25 you say it because you want it to be true. At 40 it is true.

When you get older you get more confident in yourself and forming your own opinions and you just don’t care as much if they’re the same opinions held by everyone else.  Sometimes in fact, you’ll find what you think is the total opposite of what everyone else in the world seems to think.  And you don’t care.  Sometimes you’ll even voice these opinions of yours out loud.

And so it is with no regret at all that I tell you … I don’t like Hitler.  I really don’t.  I think he was a real asshole.

I also don’t like jabbing my eye with an infected needle, drought, monsters, really long lines at the grocery store or being stuck in traffic when I have to pee.

At this point you’re nodding your head up and down in validation.  YOU feel the same way about these things!  That’s because I tricked you.  You thought I was going to voice an opinion on something that was different than yours.  I didn’t.  But I’m going to now.

I don’t like Game of Thrones.  I not only don’t like it, I think it’s stupid and cheesy. And stupid.

NOW we’re getting somewhere.  Game of Thrones has gained cult-like status the likes of which haven’t been seen since somebody dropped a piece of chocolate in peanut butter.

And I don’t like it.  Game of Thrones I mean, I LOVE chocolate and peanut butter.

I also don’t like most desserts, porn, Shakespeare, chain restaurants or sunflowers.  And I don’t really like hockey unless it’s being played by 6-9 year olds.

I’m guessing you disagree with at least one of those things and you disagree STRONGLY.  But I don’t care.  I don’t like ’em even if they are wildly popular things.  And no, I’m not saying I don’t like them just because they’re wildly popular.  That’s a favourite position for some people to take as well.  Saying they don’t like something ONLY because everyone else likes it.  Oh really?  You love breathing?  I don’t like it, totally overrated.  I prefer an iron lung.  

And then there’s brussels sprouts.  I hate them.  Everyone knows I hate them.  I’ve mentioned many times on this site about how I hate them.  By this age I know what vegetables I like and which ones I don’t.  Yet … no matter what … any time I mention my hatred of brussels sprouts someone tries to change my mind.  I just haven’t cooked them right, haven’t used the right recipe, haven’t tried THEIR brussels sprouts.  I haven’t tried eating your hair either, but I can tell you right now I won’t like it any more than I like eating my hair.

I can’t really blame people, it’s what we do.  If a person doesn’t like something that we like, we automatically try to convince them it’s worth liking.  There’s a certain pride we feel after we’ve changed someone’s mind about something because it’s such a difficult thing to do.

Just try it this weekend. Try to change someone’s mind about something. Not even anything explosive or controversial like abortion or politics.  Just try to convince someone who doesn’t like John Travolta that they actually should like John Travolta.   That they could like John Travolta.  Betcha can’t do it.  If the person happens to be under the age of 20 you might have a shot (providing they know who John Travolta is) but you won’t be able to budge anyone over 40.

I have absolutely no idea where I’m going with this post or in fact if I’m going anywhere with it.  I guess there isn’t really a point to it.

And the beauty of being over 40?  I don’t care.


  1. Debbe Van Ness says:

    No one has responded yet? humph. I don’t like that.

    I also don’t like lima beans, really truly don’t like them, probably like you don’t like Brussels sprouts, although I know you don’t care.

  2. Shana Beirne says:

    Amen, sister! I couldn’t agree with you more!

  3. Kath says:

    You’re over 40? You’ll never make me believe it.

  4. Milton says:

    Karen I don’t know if it is a hormonal thing or what but I really feel you are stressing out about something that I haven’t detected in any of your previous posts since I’ve been following you. Hope everything is going well for you. I really don’t know who Hiltler was but am guessing it could be a typo. Hope you feel better in the morning. We all love you.

  5. Paula says:

    A ‘bit’ random, however; I just bought a Fitbit and I followed your link on your previous post but it took me to the American site. Perhaps that was on purpose?

    • Karen says:

      Hmm. Normally it (Amazon) switches you over to whatever country you’re in automatically Paula. I’ll look into it. :/ It could be that Fitbit doesn’t sell on Amazon.ca and you *have* to buy it from Amazon.com. ~ karen!

  6. Violet Rose says:

    Brussel sprouts really really suck. Stinky little cabbages of horror. Hair would definitely be more palatable.

    • Jacquie says:

      Love that – “little cabbages of horror”, hehe. And so true of course.

      • Robin says:

        Brussels Sprouts! Yum! I don’t care if you don’t like them. Game of Thrones – first three books – Yay! All the rest can be thrown in a blender with barbershop trimmings and then buried under the compost heap.

  7. lisa says:

    I’ve felt this way for a while now. I think it means you’re a grown up.

    Not only do I hate Brussel sprouts, I also hate broccoli, cauliflower, and green beans. And I even have to tell my own mother, I am 47 freaking years old and I do not have to eat them if I don’t want to! And I will not make other (little) people eat them either.

    Darn right.

    • gabrielle says:

      Respect for kids tastes – provided they don’t become too narrow and picky – is an excellent parenting skill IMHO.

    • Happily says:

      I’m right there with you Lisa, on all . My husbands loves all of them, and he makes them all himself; for himself! Leave me out of all those choices period!

  8. stephanie says:

    You can buy Fitbits at Chapters. Hate, hate, hate beets, kidneys, liver, heart, tongue, brains and lima beans.

  9. Bee-Naz says:

    Karen, I think I’ve recently started hating brussel sprouts just as much as you – if not more! I mean, I never really had a brussel sprout fetish or anything but I’d eat them if they were put in front of me. Occasionally I’d buy some and oven roast them with olive oil, salt, pepper and garlic. Easy. A vegetable to have with dinner. Done.

    Now, a fun story shall we? I was at the grocery store one Sunday afternoon and decided to pick some up to have with dinner. Got home and started washing them to throw in the oven. Cut the first one in half. Hmm. What’s this we have here? Worms? Okay, into the compost it goes. Cut the next one, worms?!? The next and the next and the next and MORE WORMS!!! I went through almost the whole bag, getting more and more sick to my stomach each time I found it festering with little wiggly worms!! I mean, sweet swaddled baby Jesus!! How many times have I shoved one in my mouth without so much as looking inside? How many wiggly brussel sprout worms have I eaten in my life?!?

    Lesson learned. NEVER. AGAIN. *shudder*

    • Gillian says:


      I’ve never had them and now I most certainly never will….

      I used to love oreo cookies but, my sister showed me a picture of one with a spider stuck in the icing. …never again.

    • JulieD says:

      Ugh-The same thing happened to me last year with blackberries.

    • gabrielle says:

      That’s the kind of produce I expect from my local Zehrs market. It’s tough up here for an ex Californian (tho not any more, I gather)

    • IRS says:

      Stop whining. Free protein.

    • Karen says:

      Yeah, that’s those darn brassicas. They get cabbage worms. White moths lay eggs on them and they turn into green worms which live out their life on broccoli, cauliflower, brussels sprouts etc. They’re your basic horror show. ~ karen!

      • Penny Mitchell says:

        There’s a nasty little bugger called carrot fly, too. Surprisingly enough they attack carrots (!) which results in hordes of tiny wriggly white grubs inside the roots. Hasn’t put me off carrots, though, just the shop that sold me the infested produce. Quality control, Tesco?
        Basically, any veggie you care to name has a pest that has evolved to make it their food of choice. If that’s a good enough reason for you to eschew the whole brassica tribe, great, more for me! On the other hand, the only vegetables I’ve tried and found utterly revolting were okra (nasty slimy little snot-tubes) ackee and eddoes. I think it’s all about the texture with me.

    • Tori Minard says:

      But worms are high in protein! You really should learn to enjoy them. If you try my recipe, I’ll bet you change your mind. 😉

      • Ann Brookens says:

        I’m sure you name your holiday side dish Roasted Brussels Sprouts with Worms! Yum!

        • Tori Minard says:

          Nope, hadn’t thought of that. But now that you mention it, that’s a great idea! I think I’ll make a little sign so everyone knows what it’s called. 🙂

        • Ann Brookens says:

          Excellent! I’d love to see the expressions as your guests read the label!

  10. Therese says:

    Wait until you’re over 50! I didn’t expect to like Game of Thrones, but I actually LOVE it! I don’t care what you think. 🙂

  11. Miss Chris SA says:

    Brussels sprouts and Game of Thrones, I hear you! Wait until you are 50, rats arse comes to mind!

  12. Rebou says:

    I think you’re feeling just a little bit peed off with something this morning darling, just a little bit. Now, why don’t you tell Mommy just what it is and I’ll try and help.
    Because you now know (because you’re over 40) that Mommy doesn’t like brussels sprouts either, even though you keep serving them at Thanksgiving dinner, and I did keep this from you all the while you were growing up.
    So let Mommy know what you’re feeling hissy about this morning (just a little bit darling) and I shall try and help.
    Lots of Love, Mommy. XXXXXX

  13. Robert says:

    You don’t like GoT either? I think i just like a little bit more just for that, although I just remembered you also don’t like Hannibal so I think I also like you a little less, not that you might actually care

  14. Edith says:

    I guess I’m lucky because I love 99% of the foods we typically eat in the western world. i can only think of a very few common things that won’t cross my lips. Root beer and anything Wintergreen flavored. Then there are the few things I find very tasty but won’t eat anymore because of the “harvesting” method….lobster and Pâté.

    • penley says:

      What is wintergreen flavour? I’ve never heard of that. Sounds intriguing! I’m imagining it to be pine-y maybe?

      • gabrielle says:

        Like Beeman’s gum. If you prefer spearmint to peppermint, you might like wintergreen. It’s fresh, not hot, but not cloyingly sweet.

      • Karol says:

        Wintergreen tastes like Peptobismol. I hate wintergreen too, and beets. But I love, love brussel sprouts.

      • Bernadette says:

        It’s truly awful. Think Canada mints or Pepto Bismol or the sawdust the custodian used to cover kindergarteners’ vomit.

      • Garth says:

        Sheesh… protected childhood… Ask Mr. Google to tell you all about it, then make a visit to your local forest, find a Wintergreen plant, and chew on it. If you’re really lucky, you’ll find one with it’s lovely red berries.

        • Penley says:

          Protected childhood haha – yeah, lots of ‘local forest’ in outback Australia, most definitely heaps of this ‘wintergreen’ in between all the spinifex. Good imagination buddy. If you’re really lucky, one day you’ll realise there’s a whole world outside north America.

        • Garth says:

          Hmm… Aussie Eh! Having just returned from a month in Europe, I sort of realize that there is more to the planet than North America… and your Outback is on my list… friends there! Wintergreen is… fresh!

      • Edith says:

        I suspect that you’re not in the US? Many things here are wintergreen flavored….breath mints, chewing gum, chewing tobacco, toothpaste. Are you familiar with the old-fashioned pink bubble gum? That’s wintergreen flavored. Do you know Pepto Bismol, that pink goopy medication you take when your stomach is upset? Yup, wintergreen. I’m sorry I can’t describe what it tastes like, there is nothing else like it.

        • Penley says:

          I’ve not had pepto bismol but I’ve seen it mentioned. It’s amazing how many commenters think that the north American experience is universal. I can say pretty safely that in my experience living in the UK, Finland, Australia and France there’s not an abundance of wintergreen flavour. But thank you for trying to describe it, and sorry for getting a bit snarky but it seems some (other)(Garth)people can’t understand quite how border-free the internet is.

    • martina says:

      What are the “harvesting” methods of lobster and pâté that you object to!?

  15. mia pratt says:

    One has to think before speaking after this post. Hmph. Sheesh, I love sunflowers!<:}

  16. Sue says:

    Brussels sprouts and Game of Thrones…..two of my favorite things, but I do agree with you about Hitler! Being an old broad, older than dirt, is wonderful…people just think you are eccentric or crazy. I answer to either.

  17. Jennie Lee says:

    Some things I can ameliorate enough that I like them: BABY lima beans with lots of butter and a bit of pepper, green beans cooked with plenty of bacon or ham, and either oatmeal or sweet potatoes with a ton of brown sugar. But brussels sprouts? My Mom said I had to stay at the table till I ate them once. I was there a long time. Did not eat them. The same thing happened with liver. I tried to eat a bite, almost threw up, sat there a long time. Did not eat them. I cooked squid once. Everyone else said it was good, but after cooking it, I couldn’t eat it.

    • gabrielle says:

      Try your limas in a good cassoulet with white wine and savory meat casserole. Every recipe is different – I like it with ham and sausage and a herbed butter/breadcrumb crust, as smoked game is harder to come by. Use baby limas if you can!

  18. Jennie Lee says:

    I forgot the “don’t care” part; now that I am retired, and can’t get fired, I don’t care. I still try not to antagonize my neighbors, though.

  19. Bash says:

    I am loving the luxury of age; not having to like something because everyone else does, and having the freedom to be able to voice my opinions without worrying whether everyone will understand where I’m coming from. So yes, I agree with your conclusion that trying to sway a more mature person’s thinking to more closely align with yours is probably an exercise in futility.

  20. connie says:

    LOL- i’m with you – I don’t care either and ..I’m over 50 so there ! All I know is I luv peanut butter and chocolate… and brussel sprouts…. and my kids are tired of hearing my opinions. So I don’t think I can convince them.

    And i’ve never watched Game of thrones.

  21. kate-v says:

    Ah Ha! I was wondering what happened to the hated Brussels sprouts – why we hadn’t heard of them for so long – now they rear their little heads.
    I still like ’em, though and their season is upon us

  22. Kim says:

    I think I have felt this way most of my life. It actually infuriates people to an extent. And only now that I’m older am I finding people to be more accepting of my eccentric and vocal opinions. I think younger people feel threatened when they are not agreed with, even over minor things. As a young adult I once had some OFFENDED because I dared to mention I did not like their favourite ice cream flavour…as if their self worth was tied up in this particular preference!!!

    Also that worm Brussel sprout story basically sealed the deal for me. I will never eat them again. I never liked them anyway. I agree with the person who said hair would be preferable!

    • trish says:

      wish i’d gone down the ice cream route . . . 30 odd years ago i saw princess di on telly doing her look up from under her fringe thing and thought oh o that looks posed and practised unfortunately i followed up this thought about media manipulation by saying these things out loud. the reaction would have been less offended and violent if i’d declared i loved Hiltler and worm-infested brussel sprouts sprinkled with hair ! whaddaya gonna do 🙂

      • Jacquie says:

        Agreed. I was never a fan of Princess Di but if you said it out loud (I’m British), you might as well have said Santa was a paedophile. Very clever lady.

      • MaggieB says:

        Brit also and never took to Princess Di – that look she used to do always reminded me of Myra Hindley. And yes, people did get upset if you said you didn’t like her – but mention the Myra Hindley picture it got them thinking. The only thing I thought good on you was the landmine effort.

        Do brusssel sprout worms count as protein or carbohydrates by the way? That must be the reason for the extra poundage that has crept on being a lady of a certain age over 40!

  23. Stephanie Hobson says:

    Game of Thrones the tv show – no
    Game of Thrones the books – yes
    If Martin dies before he finishes the final book he’ll probably be dug up and hung or something equally final. Not that anything could be more final than being buried.

  24. JulieD says:

    HaHaHa! All so true! There is a certain freedom that comes with a certain age. I happen to like brussels sprouts well enough, but I’ve never wanted to watch Games of Thrones.

  25. Lindy says:

    Ah Game of Thrones. The reason you don’t like that annoying series is because you are not a hormone raging 16 year old boy who is getting his jollies watching the sex scenes. It’s particularly bad in the first series. And Sean Bean dies. Who would do that? In the business we call it a sexposition: when you need to move the plot along but you can’t come up with a creative way to do it. Stick some naked women simulating sex with each other while your dull character laboriously moves the plot into the right orbit and no one will notice.

    • lavacha says:

      Linda, you may be right. I guess when you’re a certain age you know which clichés and tropes you enjoy , and which just bore or anger you. No amount of actors I enjoy or fabulous costumes could make up for the aggravation of misused or overused tropes. I read the first book decades ago and was bored, watched a few episodes to placate friends and started knitting again.
      Ditto the walking dead, I rooted for the zombies….

    • Karen says:

      Yes, that’s pretty much how I would have summed it up if I were better with words, lol. ~ karen!

    • Evalyn says:

      I was finished with Game of Thrones as soon as they killed off Sean Bean. I was still traumatized from Lord of the Rings, so the second death was just too much for me. Long live Sean Bean, Brussels sprouts and pickled okra, not necessarily in that order. Howsomever, I do not like pomegranates.

  26. Gillian says:

    I can’t say that I don’t like Brussels Sprouts because I’ve never had them….because my tiny little girl mind decided that I didn’t like them and I trust her. I also don’t like broccoli. It stinks, can’t stand the smell of it. I will eat it though….if it’s chopped up and hidden in something else. Won’t eat cauliflower either. It reminds me of broccoli. I also don’t like apple pie. I just prefer my apples cold and crunchy and uncooked. Finally (the one I’ll probably be stoned for…) pumpkin. I dislike everything about pumpkins. Pie, latte, scooping out the guts for Jack-o-Lanterns, seeds, everything.

    On the topic of Game of Thrones. I keep getting told that I would like it because it’s my “type of thing”. My entire family who do not have that same “thing” all enjoy it however, the first 15 seconds of the first episode of the first season was so violent I got up and left the room and haven’t watched much more since AND what I have happened to glimpse has been just as violent so. No for me. I can’t even bring myself to read the books which I’m assured are not as violent. So, I can’t say that I dislike that either because I’ve never really seen enough but, it doesn’t interest me and I don’t care how people feel about that(and I’m only a little bit over 40). ;-P

    • Anon says:

      Do not read the books. I repeat, do not read the books. Just as violent as the TV series with the addition that the characters are way younger. Not a pretty image.

    • Erin says:

      You don’t like apple pie! Now that is just plain weird. However I don’t get that American thing, apple pie with cheese on top.

  27. janni says:

    I live on the Oregon coast in a drinking town with a fishing problem. Salmon season is right up there with Christmas for some people here. So, the fact that I hate salmon like you hate brussel sprouts really perturbs a lot of people. I don’t care (anymore). The first couple years I lived here, and I was in my thirties, I fell for the
    “If you only try it my way” lines. Baked, boiled, barbecued, jerkied, or in a dip I hate salmon! It took me awhile but I finally stood my ground.
    What I do love is your blogs, Karen. Thanks for all the laughs 🙂 ~Janni

  28. Christina says:

    Psst. I’m Scottish and I don’t like haggis. Don’t tell the others.

  29. trish says:

    Boy do i hear you sister but its not just not caring once you hit 40 and upwards but also the realisation you’ve really GOTTEN AWAY WITH IT !! Yay for ageing dsgracefully

  30. Melissa says:

    You don’t like hockey? And they let you stay in Canada?

  31. Auntiepatch says:

    Wait until you pass 60! I can say and do whatever I please and just ignore everyone else. Unless, of course, they want to join me. I’m always up for company. I’m going to be the Auntie Mame of my generation.

    I’m going to have to take a long hard look at my brussel sprouts in the future. I love them roasted with garlic, olive oil, and butter. Then served with mayo on top. The veggies I won’t eat are lima beans and turnips! Ughhhhh.

    And how could someone NOT know who Hitler was? Is WW2 not being taught in school any more? Did they throw out History along with Music, Art, and Theatre? I’m stepping off my soap box now……..

    • Karen says:

      Milton was just kidding Auntiepatch, lol. I had a typo and had spelled it “Hiltler” in the post. I’ve since corrected it. If you notice he’s spelled it the way I did in the post. 🙂 ~ karen!

  32. Silvie says:

    i dont like hockey. julia roberts or papaya.

  33. whitequeen96 says:

    I LOOOVE brussels sprouts, but only when they’re covered in peanut butter and chocolate! 🙂

  34. Grammy says:

    Never seen Game of Thrones and have no interest in doing so. But I still very much like Brussels Sprouts. I would, however, not serve them if you were coming to dinner and I’m happy that you don’t give a darn if I eat them myself.

  35. Marna says:

    Funny! 🙂

  36. Cathy says:

    I loathe capers. They look like rabbit turds.
    I hate being awake @0410 when I volunteered to take an unpaid low census day
    and I could’ve slept in till 0700!

  37. gabrielle says:

    Well, I was going to say that not caring what other people think is the first sign of the slippery slope of dementia, but I actually have NEVER cared. EVER! It’s a developmental thing, I was raised with the opportunity to try many things, but I was told precisely what my reaction should be each time. Now I just crave peace and quiet in which to discover my own opinions.

    And, while Game of Thrones may have many faults, it is NOT cheesy.

    Walking Dead – now THAT’S CHEESY!!!

  38. Cindy says:

    Wait…porn? You don’t like porn???? But it’s so amazingly tasty and so good for you. Have you never tried it hot and covered in butter? Porn on the cob, it’s like my favourite.

  39. IRS says:

    I have many opinions, and voice them often, but I never try to force them on anyone. I have never much cared what other people think, but when I was younger, I was much nicer and more tactful about dealing with people who tried to impose their opinions on me. Not anymore! Nowadays, the pushier someone tries to be with me, the sharper my retort. Like the guy who wanted me to sign up for a 7 day a week subscription for a newspaper I have no respect for. When he wouldn’t take no for an answer, I informed him that I was not presently house training a puppy, nor did I have any fish that needed wrapping. But my biggest pet peeve is religious proselytizers; I am well aware of where your various churches are, and if I ever want to drink your particular flavour of Koolaid, I will come knocking. Until then, f*** off! The current bane of my existence is real estate agents. I live in an area where houses are very much in demand, and any that go on the market always sell before the “for sale” sign is driven into the lawn. I am tired of weaselly agents who accost me while I am working outside, and try to convince me that I need to move out, just so that they can make a whopping commission selling my home out from under me. F*** off! As for the ongoing argument of liking/hating Brussels sprouts, or anything else, eat what you damn well like, and stop trying to shove it down my throat. I promise to show you the same respect. As far as I’m concerned, anyone who tries to tell me that “you will love it”, just because they do, has a serious deficit of brain cells. The current rage for salted caramel anything totally revolts me. I refuse to eat it, but happily watch others consume what I consider an abomination. We are all different. We can voice our opinions without needing to be pushy, or agreed with.

    By the way, never mind “Game of Thrones” (which I don’t watch), years ago I saw the first episode of “Breaking Bad”, found it quite boring, and never watched it again. How’s THAT for “sacrilege”? Cue the outrage. *cackles*

    • Debbe Van Ness says:

      Oh, I saw the first episode (is that the one where he kills the guy with the bicycle lock while the guy is chained to a pillar in his cellar?) can you tell I never got intimate since I don’t know anyone’s name? Anyhow…..personally, I didn’t find it boring, but it was definitely disturbing. I never watched it after that.

    • Ann Brookens says:

      Salted Caramel! What is the current fascination with the stuff? I tried it and I don’t like it. Also, sweet and savory together just don’t do it for me.
      And I don’t like Breaking Bad, either.
      Or Game of Thrones, series or books. Too violent.
      Or pretzels.
      I’m done, now.

  40. Jane says:

    One of the great things about being an adult was realizing I never had to eat lima beans again. Or broccoli stems.

    • IRS says:

      Very true. Eat what you like. I almost regret (almost) not having had kids. It would be enormously gratifying to be able to tell a sullen 9 year old, “I hate liver too, and I don’t have to eat it because I’m a grown up, but YOU do, because I said so!” Hee hee! However, I am told that the use of sadism in rearing children is generally frowned upon. Oh well.

      • Debbe Van Ness says:

        Yeah, and, God love ya. Liver isn’t so good for us to eat. Sadism is probably less good for us to project on kids…..just saying. My parents loved liver. My mom would cook it for her and my dad and make something else for us kids, knowing that you either love it or hate it. My mom was awesome like that.

        • Kim says:

          Actually, whether you love it or hate it, liver is one of the most nutritious foods you can eat (if it comes from a humanely/properly raised animal)

      • Ann Brookens says:

        IRS, I love your comments. You are a wicked person.

  41. Jillian says:

    I simply don’t care what other people think for a few reasons:
    1. A persons thought process is based on their subconsious beliefs formed, mostly, when as a child and if they are not conscious of what they are thinking they are living their life from the view point of a 6 year old lol
    2. As my grandma use to say “what others think about you is none of your business, and vice versa”. This is a very potent statement to say to people who are personally attacking you. lol It ends the conversation.
    3. I don’t take what other people think, do or say personally, (see #1), which frees me to just not give a shit. This also frees me to live my life authentically and just be who I am, because again, I just don’t give a shit.

    And I totally agree with you, the older one gets the less we care what others think. I love being in my 40’s and can’t wait to be in my 50’s, beginning next year! When I say this to people, they get all uptight about getting older, probably, because of fear of old age and death or vanity or whatever. Bu then again, I just don’t give a shit….

  42. Jack Ledger says:

    I totally agree with your dislike of chain restaurants………….their problem is that no restaurant is stronger than their weakest link. Have a nice weekend!

  43. As I was busy corking, yes corking, small bags from hemp this past weekend I had someone try to convince me I should be knitting instead. “I don’t like knitting, I like this” I replied but to no end they tried to make me see the light about knitting, how easy it is and I just hadn’t been taught right and that the bag I was making would be better as a knitted square and then tied with a ribbon. “But that isn’t what I’m making at all” I countered. Then the attack was on the hemp, “it’s too rough” they complained. “It will soften with use, like linen” I explained. “It’s too rough, I should use something else.” “But that isn’t what I want, I want to make it out of hemp” at which point I had to walk away before I told her what she could do.

    • IRS says:

      Linda, you are a woman of great restraint. I too, enjoy corking, and after my first polite rebuttal that I like to do it my way, I would have told the nosy knitter that he or she could shove their knitting up the south end of their alimentary canal. I have come to believe that even the most shy, demure, and elderly of people, and those unaccustomed to swearing like a truck driver, need to learn to deploy a well placed “F*** off!” from time to time. Perhaps not as frequently as I do, but occasionally nonetheless.

      • Hahaha, I do have great restraint! I was at a craft show selling my soap products, (the bags were for the soap) and for the sake of potential customers have to, however, the conversation or actions going on in my head compared to my actions and/or what comes out of my mouth are entirely different. I call these my Walter Mitty Moments. 😉

        • IRS says:

          Anyone who would endlessly criticize your work like that isn’t going to buy anything anyway, so let the ignorant boob have it. I love going to craft shows, and frequently talk to the artists about the methods and techniques they use, if they are so willing. Sometimes when they have explained why they do something a particular way, I have had a “Eureka!” moment, and realized that their way makes more sense than mine. The key is to ask questions, but not criticize; that just makes you an annoying twit.

        • It isn’t them that concerns me but other customers, I already know they aren’t buying. If I engage with them I’m just the same and I’m not going to change them plus I may turn off other, more important potential customers. Besides, the Walter Mitty Moments make for some pretty humorous stories, like the woman who asks do I sell Pears, she has used Pears all her life, it’s all she uses, to which I reply, smiling, “No, but I do sell these beautiful, truly natural soaps which are extra moisturizing and very good for your skin” while thinking “what do I look like a F$%King Shoppers Drug Mart?, move along, get the F*(k out of my space.” 🙂

        • IRS says:

          Wow! She actually said that to you? What a moron! I generally don’t like to berate people for asking questions, since everything we know, we had to learn at some point, but some questions really are indicative of who you are dealing with. So she is at a craft show…..talking to a woman who sells handmade soap……..and she asks if you carry a commercial product? I would have messed with her head, and told her that Pears is made with petroleum sludge runoff, and filtered sewage water (not true), and then presented her with your version of Pears, which is just glycerin soap. Either you could have sold her something, or at least you could have made her squirm every time she takes a shower. 😀

        • Hahaha, well this was at a Farmers’ Market but regardless, yes. Again, she wasn’t going to buy so I just pointed her in a direction where she could purchase it. I hear all kinds, those people just aren’t worth wasting your breath on. More recently I had someone tell me they could buy the same thing for $2 at the bulk food store. I told her I knew the product she was referring to and that it wasn’t the same as this but before I could say more she said it was also available at the local, very prominent health food store, which is true because I know the product. She repeated this several times as she walked quickly away.
          She obviously wasn’t interested and/or did not care about hearing anything I had to say, her prerogative. Perhaps letting them continue will help to thin out the herd, one can only hope.
          On another note, I could and will contact the prominent health food store and let them know about that product and how it affects the purchasing power of people’s thought process when buying from them. They provide other, better options but people are more likely to compare prices over ingredients and if this store provides that alternative it must be just as good, after all soap is soap right.

        • IRS says:

          You need to start bringing a fully charged Taser when attending these Farmer’s Markets. You can make yourself a nice hemp hip holster, so that it’s always at the ready.

  44. danni says:

    I’m over 50, a widow with grown children out of the house… and I do whatever the hell I want. Just one of those “whatever the hell I want” things was painting the refrigerator in chalk paint (actually everyone loves that,) and wrote my motto on it… YOU CAN’T MAKE ME!
    You just become more of the stubborn, willful, curious and creative child you were born as. I’m loving it.

  45. Kim C says:

    I didn’t have any interest in watching Game of Thrones either but, out of desperation, gave it a go. I was surprised that I actually enjoyed it. Heck of a lot better than the regular drivel on tv most evenings! Being over 40 and a month shy of 50, I will throw my opinion into the ring…I don’t like Harry Potter! After much coaxing from my relatives I attempted the first book then the movie. Nope, not for me thankyouverymuch.
    I do love that we can all come here to Karen’s to share our opinions and maybe pick up on a great show or another method to cook nasty little devil cabbages!

  46. marilyn says:

    if porn is done well it can be a good thing lol

  47. Sarah says:

    I too couldn’t give a rats arse what happens on Game of Thrones. or Downton Abbey. now that I am over 40, I consider my life essence too finite to spend binge watching and trying to catch up on shows I never got into in the first place.

  48. laura n says:

    I hate liver. I accidentally threw it up right at a restaurant. It was a buffet. I thought it was beef.

  49. Marjorie Kramer says:

    I don’t like Game of Thrones, either. I binged on the first four or five seasons, thinking I would eventually understand its greatness. There is no greatness to get – especially because they so under-utilize their best actor, Peter Dinklage.

  50. Mary Duffy says:

    Goat cheese. Ack.

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