Friday’s post. Why I hated Her but love Him.

Welcome to Friday’s post.  I’m glad you found your way here.  It proves a) you’re very, VERY smart and b) you’re about to be Tentertained!  I teach, I entertain … I’M A TENTERTAINER!  Not to be confused with a taintertainer which is something else entirely and  requires working with gloves and penicillin.

So I saw the movie Her last week in preparation for my annual Oscar party (total guests, 1 … unless you count the statuettes).  I try to watch all the nominated Best Picture movies whether I think I’ll like them or not.  Sometimes I’m pleasantly surprised, as was the case with The Wolf of Wallstreet and sometimes the movie just reaffirms why I didn’t want to see it in the first place.

Her is just such a movie.  I hated that movie.  I unabashedly hated every second of it.  It bored me to the point of becoming a mouth breather.  I cringed, I cried, I routinely daydreamed about what it would be like if I was born with suction cups on all my fingertips.

Spike Jonze did this.  SPIKE JONZE.  Spike Jonze, for those of you who don’t know is a pretty cool guy.   He’s the co-creator of Jackass, was married to Sophia Coppola and directed the movie Being John Malkovich when he was 29.   Blah, blah, that’s all great and impressive but Spike’s greatest work, the thing that secured him in the super-cool, can do no wrong Hall of Fame was his work in music videos.

He directed and starred in Fatboy Slim’s Praise You (he’s the ridiculous lead dancer), directed Beastie Boys Sabotage and did all of Weezer’s best videos including the super-fantastic Buddy Holly.

But what made me love Spike Jonze enough to forgive him the movie Her, was the video for Island in the Sun by Weezer.  3 men, cavorting and monkeys.  No one needs more.


Island in the Sun – Spike Jonze version



As a comparison, this was the first (and far less popular … most people have never even seen it) version of the video by a different director.

Island in the Sun – early version (not Spike Jonze)


Not a single monkey, bear or panther.


Weezer Buddy Holly – directed by Spike Jonze


The thing about Spike Jonze for me is, within 5 seconds of watching any of the videos he’s made, I smile.  And I smile until it’s over at which point I more often than not, press play again.

And by the way, I do realize that I’m the one and only person who didn’t fall over fainting at the brilliance of Her.  I know this because I Googled “Am I the only one who hated the movie Her?”.   And I was the only one.

It was my pleasure to teach you something today.  It was my pleasure to entertain you.

That my friends, is Tentertainment!

Have a good weekend!





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  1. Jamieson says:

    Loved Her. You’re a weirdo. There, I taught you something too!

  2. Marti says:

    Ok, so skip Her. Which all things (read that: Joaquin Phoenix) considered, I could do without anyway.

    Did you see Gravity? I have only seen like 3 movies in the past year, Karen, so I’m game for all your Oscar-preview advice.

    • Karen says:

      I saw Gravity and thought it was very watchable. But not an Oscar worthy film if you ask me. I’m going to do an Oscar post just prior to the big event. I’ve seen most of the nominated movies and performances already and hope to have seen them all by then. ~ karen

      • Marti says:

        See! There’s the problem: I don’t even know if Gravity was nominated. I really just forgot to look this past year. “Watchable” sounds good. Joaquin Phoenix isn’t very watchable, in my opinion.

        Are you perhaps a member of one of the writers’ union, and get Oscar voting copies in the mail? Dang, I wish that was MY union. Grrrrrr! My union gets me dental insurance… that gets my dental work at 98% of full price. And bonus: IT’S DENTAL WORK.

  3. Bobbi says:

    Thanks for the tentertainment. I LOVED the animals in the first music video. Now, I guess I will wait until HER is out on dvd, instead of heading to the theater. Thanks for the heads up.

  4. Bobbi says:

    Did not enjoy Gravity much. Felt it was oversold.

  5. Jamieson says:

    The SNL parody was hilarious.

  6. Jamieson says:

    Gravity I enjoyed but I classify as acting & directing “gymnastics”. ie Not necessarily better acting, but an impressive feat given how much green screen acting she had to do, and floating around etc.
    Of all the 9 nominees my faves were 12 Years A Slave, American Hustle, and Her. Nebraska and Philomena were okay but not Best Picture worthy by a long shot.
    Haven’t seen Wolf yet.

    • Karen says:

      LOL. Good explanation. And true. You have to watch Wolf. I was prepared to hate it though, so that could partly explain why I was pleasantly surprised. ~ karen the tentertainer

  7. Meghan says:

    Having a film degree, I feel like I shouldn’t be so close-minded, but good God, the TV ads alone are so boring. Maybe one day I’ll watch Her, but no time soon.
    Buuuut, I totally love Spike Jonze. He’s amazingly talented. His music videos are genius, and as a high school kid somewhat obsessed with the Beasties and Weezer when Sabotage and Buddy Holly came out, I was in awe of what he created. He absolutely inspired me when I chose my degree.
    As for Her… perhaps his wife’s lack of talent is rubbing off on him? 😀 Ok, cheap shot, but The Virgin Suicides was HORRIBLE!

  8. Monica says:

    my mom hated Her too. She said she kept daydreaming how it could be a more interesting movie (what if the AIs used their knowledge nefariously?), because it was so lonely. And underwhelming.

  9. Debbie says:

    American Hustle – excellent

    Philomena – excellent

    Saving Mr. Banks – family liked it more than I did. Tom Hanks seemed like Tom Hanks, not Walt Disney. Loved Tom Hanks in Captain Phillips.

    Nebraska – grit your teeth to try to get through it. Liked the premise. It was slow as molasses,

    Gravity – we didn’t bother as the kids said all it was good for was special effects.

    Her – well, I was thinking of seeing it, though now, hmm. I love reading your posts! (I’m not up to using the word ” blog ” yet.)

  10. Jamieson says:

    Also, loved August: Osage County though I’m sure it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. Meryl and Julie should be nominated for Most Acting.

  11. Ema says:

    Thanks for the tentertainment! I rarely watch movies and I absolutely hate watching one that makes me lose hours of my life I can’t get back so I appreciate your review! 🙂

  12. me says:

    The whole basis of the movie is stupid. This movie proves people will watch anything…

  13. Cathy says:

    Saw Gravity, was underwhelmed. Nothing since, but we don’t do movies much— 1or2 a year.
    Now THAT’S weird

  14. Wisconsingal says:

    No fair! I want to cavort with baby bears and lions, puppies, kittens and monkeys. It would be a dream come true. I don’t care about the movie.

  15. Lesley Williamson says:

    Have seen no Oscar nom movies this year. Not one. I’m officially too old and too cranky to pay 8 bucks or 10 bucks to sit in a theatre smelling of horrible movie popcorn and strawberry Twizzlers with my feet stuck to the floor and surrounded by ….. OTHER PEOPLE. Other people crinkling their cellophane and dinking around with their smart phones and talking and rattling the way too many ice cubes in their gigantic colas. Much better and cheaper to watch at home alone with my feet stuck to the floor and rattling the perfect two ice cubes in my vodka and whatever and wearing my jammies.

    Also my new rule: if I hate you I won’t see your movie. This means you Gwyneth Paltrow (except in Iron Man where I go for a refill when you’re on screen), Leo DiCaprio except in Gilbert Grape, Joaquin Phoenix post-Gladiator, Bradley Cooper, Reese Witherspoon, Shia LaBeouf, Gerard Butler, Will Smith and his appalling children, Jim Carrey, James Franco, ADAM FREAKING SQUICKY SANDLER …..

    Spike Jonze Island in the Sun however – fabulous and bookmarked for bad days.

  16. magali says:

    I had only seen the bad version of Island in the sun. Thanks for the tentertainment, the good version made me feel warm and fuzzy and ready to take on my Friday!

  17. Sandra says:

    Thanks for making me smile. Haven’t seen a Weezer video in years and the Sabotage video is my favorite of all times. Have you watched the tribute to MCA video. That one makes me smile too.

  18. Tigersmom says:

    I began watching the “other” Island in the Sun video after watching the Spike Jones version and was puzzled to hear Bjork squawking in the song.

    I kept thinking to myself, “Why would they add her random squawking to this?”

    I finally realized that it was an actual Bjork video playing above and off my screen. It had begun playing after the (much better, by the way) Spike Jonez version.

  19. jainegayer says:

    I absolutely agree with you about Gravity. Lots of good special effects but Sandra Bullock was Sandra Bullock and she’s a good solid actress but that was not worthy of an Oscar. I saw American Hustle and didn’t expect to like it, but I was pleasantly surprised.
    Thank you, Karen for the men and monkey video. I never saw that one and totally enjoyed it.
    Have a good weekend.

  20. Gina says:

    Did you see Twelve Years A Slave? One of the best movies I’ve ever seen. People seem to be avoiding it because of the subject but I highly recommend it. A graceful movie.

  21. Ev says:

    Really liked “Gravity”, but mostly because I particularly like both the stars’ work,and I am a “space junkie”! But the movie was no way oscar quality, to me. So maybe I’m the only one–I can live with that.

  22. Laura Bee says:

    Haha – “Praise You” came on 5 minutes before the bar closed a summer or two ago. My friend & I were the only two on the dancefloor. I start the moves & she is dancing along with me-laughing her ass off. Only after did I find out she has never seen the video & thought I was making it up.

    The reason you love the “Island In The Sun” vid is obviously because it was shot on the same hill as the one the girls run down in the credits of “Little House On The Prairie”.

  23. Sally says:

    Going to see 12 Years a Slave this weekend at the Westdale. Wanna come?

    Best movie so far this year was The Book Thief. Not up for any awards that I know of. That Geoffrey Rush is the most ripped off actor ever. And the young French Canadian girl that played the title role was mesmerizing. What a great flick. Haven’t seen her or Gravity. The Butler was also an amazing film.

  24. Pam W says:

    Just saw Her and loved every minute of it. Let’s agree to disagree. 🙂

  25. K says:

    I thought I was the only one too! I really, really disliked Her. I never bought into the ‘relationship’ between Joaquin and Scarlett as being real, found the entire premise rather sexist and gross (she’s at his beck and call at any time?) and the fake flirty laugh Samantha/Scarlett kept doing just drove me up the wall and reinforced the grossness.

  26. Brenda says:

    From the first time I saw the “Her” trailer, I absolutely, without a doubt, knew I would never waste any of my time watching that movie. So you’re not alone. I hated it just from the trailer.

    But…I have never seen the Weezer video with all the animals and THOROUGHLY enjoyed it. Smiled from beginning to end, watched it again, shared it on my FB page so others could have a smile, too…so THANK YOU for that!

  27. Becky says:

    When Weezer’s Island in the Sun came out my husband (who was my boyfriend then) and I were talking about the song/video. He had only seen the first video–I had only seen the second video–we both thought the other was completely crazy.

  28. gabrielle says:

    wow. could not believe how commercial spike jonez has gotten, then realized i was thinking of spike LEE! sigh. time to cue up the movie Bamboozled again! you just can’t teach an old dog new tricks.

    glad to see the earth’s last remaining jaguar made it out of his habitat to star in some contrived video :2P

  29. Kylie says:

    Totally with you Karen on her it was a waste of time hated it. Couldn’t get behind Gravity but I find all those sorts of movies incredibly boring it’s always the same plot line some one gets lost SURPRISE not much else can happen its space apparently.

  30. Ana R. says:

    Karen, you are NOT the only one, but my boyfriend and I thought we were! We hated it, and slinked out of the theater wide-eyed at everyone else marveling at how amazing it was. I just don’t see it.

    It felt like a 15-minute short stretched to a feature length film. The only thing that made it worth the $12 ticket was watching the trailer for The Grand Budapest Hotel by Wes Anderson.

  31. Sandee says:

    I also hated “Her”. I just didn’t get it…total waste of 2 hours.

  32. tj says:

    Oh hell no! You are not the only one who hated it! I can’t even finish watching it it is THAT bad. Truly awful movie. On the other hand, Dallas Buyers Club (which I resisted watching thinking I would hate it), was immensely satisfying! A truly good and enjoyable movie – along with Wolfs of Wall St. I believe WWS to be the best movie made in at least the past decade, while DBC is almost as good.

  33. Susan says:

    Her? More like Hell. Awful, boring, kill me now movie.
    Loved American Hustle and Wolf of Wall Street and Dallas Buyers Club. All great stories with great acting.
    Back to Her…..the movie was as weird as Joaquin. And I cannot get those two hours back. Best thing about Her was my big ass Popcorn.

  34. Jane says:

    My daughter worked at small zoo a few summers ago and actually got to bring home 2 lion cubs for the night……the Weezer video brought back a great memory…..thanks! Also had a tiger cub one night….sooooo cute!

  35. Barbie says:

    Ok, I watched all 3 of your videos….and I have to agree there is just that “something” about the Spike Jonez ones. I am still intrigued though about “Her”….I may still have to go see it. I must say though that you totally have me obsessed with “Scandal”!!! OMG! I needed something new to watch after I got as far as I could on netflix with “Breaking Bad” (waiting for 2nd half of season 5 to come out on netflix) I use it to do the elliptical trainer so I don’t know I am exercising~! SUCH a GOOD show! HOWEVER, I sometimes have to sneak in a few more episodes during the day because I want to see what happens next! On those days….I don’t get much done! Thanks Karen! HA!

  36. Sarah says:

    I feel like the only person in the world who was entirely underwhelmed and annoyed by American Hustle. I thought the story had great potential, but the acting ruined it for me. (I’m looking directly at you, Bradley Cooper.)

    • Jen says:

      Same here! My movie-loving husband, daughter and I did a collective “Meh” over American Hustle, although we all agree that Christian Bale and Amy Adams were doing great with what they had to work with.

  37. Patti says:

    So glad to hear it sucked … I knew it had to after hearing all those rave reviews. From the start I thought it was a horrible premise. And what happened to Joaquin? I think he lost it after he played Johnny Cash. Oh yeah and Spike Jonze is the illest.

  38. Stephbo says:

    OMG!! Anything with baby critters gets my vote! Jane, I can’t believe you got to have such an amazing experience. I’m very jealous. And I totally thought the whole idea behind Her was stupid, so I won’t be eating two hours of my life on it. Thanks!

  39. Elen Grey says:

    I watched Island In The Sun twice. Thank you. 😀

  40. marilyn says:

    american hustle..forget bore..her…not even remotely interested

  41. Sharon says:

    Even if you didn’t like Her, you might laugh at the SNL spoof – Me.

  42. Jen says:

    I do NOT want to see Her because it looks incredibly depressing and who needs that? I’ll take Wall St douchebags doing coke off a hooker’s bum anyday over a sadsack “love” story. On another note, I think Spike has sort of grown into his looks and has turned into a hottie. Weird?

  43. Christie says:

    I completely forgot about Spike Jonze’s takeover of music videos in the 2000s! “Praise You” – SO VERY GOOD.

    Also, the Beastie Boys “Root Down” live video in that playlist makes me want to learn to breakdance. You’re never too old to learn to breakdance, are you? I think not.

  44. I am always the last to see them. Thanks for the tentertainment though!!

  45. Glenda says:

    Ok, thanks. I won’t watch Her. BUT you liked Wolf? If they give out statues for every f word, then yes, then win. Enough Said, now that’s worth watching. Blue jasmine, yes (tho I usually boycott woody films).
    Still need to see Osage. Omage to Meryl. Enough said. Again!

  46. karen says:

    I went with a group of about 12 people to see The English Patient when it first came out. When it was over there were sighs and tears and “oh, that was the best movie I’d ever seen” comments.
    I HATED it!!! Thought it was ridiculous! I hate the main characters. They had no redeeming qualities. Why did they even like each other???
    I haven’t seen Her, but I know how you feel! Like: Am I missing something here?

  47. Korrine says:

    I feel certain that I would hate it too. I refuse to watch it.

  48. Cat says:

    I didn’t especially like the film, but I did find it interesting. I really love science fiction though, so the idea of focusing on a small personal story happening during a really big spectacular story really appeals. The idea of a new species growing up, leaving behind their creators and becoming their own society is cool (and, like, totally a metaphor for the human condition, etc).
    I just wish it wasn’t about a messed up broken dude having a pseudo-sexual relationship with a child-woman.
    And I really hated the way all the ex characters were portrayed. Both Amy’s ex-boyfriend and Theodore’s ex-wife are really terrible people. Just spiteful/ oblivious/mean/narcissistic and kind of cruel. I mean, relationships go bad, but the reason they last so long is because there was something there to like at some point.

  49. andrew karr says:

    I have always enjoyed watching the OKGO one take videos. All of them.

  50. Liz says:

    Well I just googled “Am I the only person who hated the movie “Her”” and got this hit. Thank God. I do wish you’d gone into more detail regarding what you hated about it – just for my salacious gratification !:).

    I sat through it because my boyfriend loved it. Now I am wondering if we’re really suited…

    • Karen says:

      OMG. We’re officially a gang! The rest of the “Her” loving world can suck it. ~ karen!

    • Michelina says:

      I liked the idea behind it, but the movie was just so incredibly boring. The plot is intelligent and original, but the movie was painfully boring and hard to get through.

  51. Michelina says:

    You aren’t the only one who hated “Her.” Funnily enough, I came across this post because I, too, googled about hating the movie, and this is actually the only post I’ve found that felt the same way I do. I’m also a fan of Jonze’s work as a director, but this really didn’t do it for me.

  52. eldertobias says:

    Ugh. A dressed up cliche. Characters about as deep as my smart phone. Was there anything surprising, compelling, thought provoking here? Felt the way I did when I got stuck in line at the grocery store while the cashier and customer had a deep philosophical conversation about the merits of paying for groceries using a cell phone. Oh what a wonderful world! A case of he emperor’s new clothes…

  53. Liz says:

    HATED EVERY SECOND. I have not been so sickened by a film (Theodore’s sex scenes were as much fun as watching some Hef jack off to porn.

    Thanks for making me feel less alone!

  54. giselle says:

    Still watching it and hating every single tortuous moment. I don’t think I’m make it to the end.

  55. giselle says:

    I did and had to go to bed very cranky about wasting part of my life. Worst movie ever for me. So ridiculous and depressing and sad. And what’s with the look of high waisted pants in the future? Do we all lose our sense of taste?

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